John 19:26 Then when Jesus saw His mother and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, Woman, behold your son!
John 19:27 Then He said to the disciple, Behold your mother! And from that hour that disciple took her into his own home.
Most will tell you how sweet Jesus is being to his mother by giving John the responsibility for her care. I don’t believe this is the case. There, I said it. Jesus had brothers and sisters including his brother James who became an apostle himself. Any of them would have been happy to care for his mother. All of them had been raised by the same mother and (earthly) father as Jesus and understanding their responsibilities would have been a given. So what was Jesus up to? Well, I’m glad you asked.
If we look at John and his relationship with Jesus, we see it is a deep and loving relationship. It is different than the others because the need in John’s heart was perhaps greater. John and his brother James were called the sons of thunder. I am of the opinion that Zebedee (their father) did more than just thunder. Whatever he did seems to have impacted John differently than it did his brother, James. Hence the need in John’s heart for the love of a father that we see displayed in John 13:23
John 13:21 When Jesus had said this, He was troubled in spirit, and testified and said, Truly, truly, I say to you that one of you shall betray Me.
John 13:22 Then the disciples looked upon one another, wondering of whom He spoke.
John 13:23 But there was one of His disciples leaning upon Jesus’ bosom, the one whom Jesus loved.
John 13:24 Simon Peter therefore signaled to him to ask whom it might be of whom He spoke.
John 13:25 And lying on Jesus’ breast, he said to him, Lord, who is it?
John 13:26 Jesus answered, It is he to whom I shall give the morsel when I have dipped it. And dipping the morsel, He gave it to Judas Iscariot, the son of Simon.
Notice Peter didn’t say “Whoa! What’s going on here?” This was probably a fairly regular occurrence and something they were used to seeing. There are those who lack understanding who try to infer something ungodly was happening. Quite the contrary. A deep need was being met in John’s heart. At the point of His crucifixion, Jesus was still ministering to the heart of John. He had known the heart of a loving father as that was the love Jesus was giving him. But now he had another gift for John. The love of a mother. Both are necessary. Jesus was meeting the deepest needs in the heart of John by giving him his own mother. Not for her protection. It was for his (John’s). He needed the nurturing love of a mother in his life in order to bring healing to his heart. In so doing, God was bring restoration to John and equipping him for the task ahead of him. The quiet strength of a mother’s heart was necessary to mold him into the man of God he would become. Let that soak in. If you’re a mom don’t let anyone ever make you feel less than or that a mom’s role is unimportant. Apparently Jesus though it was important. Take a look at Luke 18:29-30
Luke 18:29 And He said to them, Truly I say to you, There is no one who has left house, or parents, or brothers, or wife, or children for the sake of the kingdom of God,
Luke 18:30 who shall not receive many times more in this present time, and, in the world to come everlasting life.
Look at what he promises: If you’ve lost your parent or parents for the sake of the Kingdom (I think that extends to those who have lost parents other ways also) he says you will receive “many more” in this present time. Many more what? Parents. My friend if you have lost your mother or father he promises to bring someone into your life to fulfill that role in your life. He did this for John and he will do that for you. If you’re a motherly type and have room in your heart, perhaps God will use you to help meet this need in another person. it’s called being a spiritual parent and the bond can be quite real depending upon the need. Are you willing? it could be the greatest mother’s day present you have ever received. Happy Mother’s Day.